Codependency Quiz – Codependency Plagues 90% of Humanity
Codependency coverup
What the heck is the matter with my relationship? Why is it not working?
Opposites attract is the “socially accepted” way of saying your codependent traits draw the person who uses your dysfunction in order for them to function in their dysfunction.
Are you or the person you are with
- Unwilling to make a commitment to the current relationship
- Denying emotions and unmet needs
- Living with unresolved relationship issues
- In and out of relationships/marriages
The coverup exposed.
In my previous marriage, I was denying emotions and unmet needs while trying to figure out how it is that none of our issues ever saw resolve. Though we had gone to several counselors. It wasn’t until I learned about codependency that I began to change.
In my quest to become healthy, I was informed as I begin to change that my husband will either choose to grow and change with me or he will leave. He left.
Cut off at the pass
Are you ready for the relationship disaster that lingers or is waiting to take you captive to be cut off at the pass?
I sure was.
Family Life Matters states: Some estimates suggest that over 90 percent of the American population demonstrates codependent behavior. A study by Crester and Lombardo (1999) found that nearly half of surveyed college students displayed middle or high codependent characteristics.
It is crazy to think, half the people we run into are incapable of creating healthy relationships.
That is… UNTIL they address their codependency.
The Bible calls codependency IDOLATRY. It is putting someone or something in front of God.
Let’s start with self-discovery
The information I found the most helpful in my quest for growth was this Word doc codependency matrix from Word of Life Counseling Center and Christian Counseling Training Insitute
What you will learn…
- 6 types of Codependency
- Which type are you
- Characteristics list of each type of Codependency
- Recovery plan for each type of Codependency
Types of Codependency and who uses who
The downloaded matrix shows the 6 types of codependency.
Dependent Passive <—–> Relationship Avoidant
Dependent Rescuer <—–> Responsibility Avoidant
Independent Worldly Success <—–> Independent Worldly Failure
I was operating with traits from the left side and I saw my partner’s traits coming from the right side.
Where are you?
Answer the questions in the matrix and tally up the totals to identify which types are showing up in your life.
After identifying which codependent traits you are using, read through the characteristics list for your type, and then decide whether or not you want to work through the recovery plan.
Wanting a shift to happen?
A shift happens when new information is received AND APPLIED.
I have the firm belief each of us chooses our path doing the best we can with what we are given.
The statement above may sound correct and YET is a codependent statement.
I do not know what you or “we” want or believe.
The only person I can speak on behalf of is myself.
Put your codependency antenna on and make a note each time you hear someone saying “we” and ask yourself do you conquer?
A healthy way to say the above statement is…
I choose my path doing the best I can with what I am given. Anytime I am wanting a shift to happen I search for new information and apply the principles.
What I want and believe is up to me to say.
What you want and believe is up to you to say – not me.
If you would like to understand more about the codependency go through the 10 videos found at Word of Life Counseling Center and Christian Counseling Training Insitute.
If you would like a weekly challenge to overcome codependency go through the email series Don’t Worry, Be Happy
Until we meet again, be cool, be real, be you.
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