How to overcome adversity?
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What is ADVERSITY?
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Learning how to overcome adversity starts with understanding - what is adversity?
the dictionary is a wonderful place to Discover What is adversity
When searching the internet, we found many sites listing “examples of adversity” that were not examples of adversity, but rather what area of life adversity visits.
Welcome to a fallen world filled with adversity where you find hardship when looking for – what is adversity.
Saying that we experience adversity in our physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, and relational spaces is like saying we are alive.
The areas of life where you may have adversity are not “types of adversity.”
The best San Diego life coach, Ms. Love, explains that examples of adversity becomes very clear by reading the dictionary’s definition.
The Oxford Languages dictionary defines ad·ver·si·ty /ədˈvərsədē/ noun
difficulties; misfortune
Now hold on and take a deep breath before you read the list of words similar to adversity as you may end up screaming:
My whole life is one ADVERSITY after another!!!
Similar to adversity: ill-luck, trouble, hardship, distress, disaster, bad luck, misadventure, suffering, affliction, sorrow, misery, heartbreak, heartache, wretchedness, tribulation, woe, pain, trauma, torment, torture, mishap, accident, shock, upset, reverse, reversal, setback, crisis, catastrophe, tragedy, calamity, trial, burden, blow, vicissitudes, issue, hell, hell on earth, hassle, stress, travails
Did any of the examples of adversity hop off the page and smack you upside the head?
Ouch. You are not alone.
Adversity is not prejudiced.
It doesn’t care about your skin color, age, educational, emotional, spiritual, relational, or even financial status.
When it wants to visit, it does.
Here’s a new thought…
Welcome adversity as it arrives as it offers positive paybacks for those who overcome it.
The lessons you learn about how to live your best life due to adversity visiting you are priceless. Not to mention the beautiful opportunities you are given to deepen your character.
You have at your disposal a Do-It-Yourself Life Coaching website filled with tools and resources to help you outshine the darkest moments in your life.
Progress is inevitable: Apply knowledge with a can-do spirit and take action using practical application tools.
What has worked for Ms. Love and 1000’s of others is here for you.
It’s no secret; as soon as you meet Ms. Love, you will agree she is the best San Diego life coach you will ever meet.
There is just something about her that is different, and you will soon discover why.
Ms. Love has been brokenhearted, penniless, homeless, without employment, physically not well while raising teenagers.
Are you ready? Let’s go.
If at any time you want extra support, reach out to us. We are here for you.
How to overcome the adversities of life?
Start with YOU
You were created in perfect love, power, and with a sound mind
There are four principal factors to overcoming the adversity that you are currently facing that need to be reviewed to begin confidently moving forward.
You are creating your present reality.
- What you think of YOURSELF – identity
- How YOU are showing up – entwined life
- When things occur for YOU – perfect timing
- Why YOU are choosing this life – choices
As we visit each component, we hope and pray that you will discover you were born to be an overcomer.
Bookmark this page so that when you are off taking action, you will easily find your way back.
Okay then, let’s do this.
Have you ever felt like this person?
1st up. What you think of yourself is your…
1. Identity
To understand how to find yourself again, start with how amazing you are!
God created you in perfect love and power and with a sound mind.
We know this to be absolute, spot-on, accurate. How?
It is not because Dr. Carolyn Leaf said so, although she is correct, but because it is stated in the most accurately recorded history book ever written by the Creator of the species called mankind.
Everything we believe about ourselves, our lives, our current circumstances comes from somewhere.
Questioning your beliefs creates growth.
When beliefs do not serve you – find an ideology that does.
Your beautiful, sound mind is ready and able to reprogram your thoughts anytime you want to – which leads us to your choices.
Begin entertaining new thoughts of your amazingness – thoughts of overcoming.
Paint a picture in your mind detailing what overcoming looks and feels like to you.
Review: 1st step in overcoming adversity is getting in touch with your identity.
Your natural created state is in power and love and with a sharp mind.
When anything comes towards you that is not in your natural state, cast it aside by reaffirming your identity.
2nd step in how to overcome adversity is to examine your life.
2. Entwined Life
To make life exceptional, entwine life, love, finances, and faith
Entwine means: to interweave.
These four areas coexist, and if any space is off, it has a domino effect creating adversity.
Being lost and overwhelmed can be a by-product of living in a technologically advanced world and over-scheduling.
It can also result from ignoring an area of our life or not knowing how to simplify life.
A google search reveals 76 million options for pillars of life and 226 million options for the circle of life.
Pondering which circle or pillar system you may want to adopt may bring confusion.
To which we say…
We have found a four-circle system is simple.
Wouldn’t you agree?
Your sphere of life includes Life, Love, Finances, and Faith each separate, yet perfectly entwined.
If one realm is ignored or out of balance, life will come crashing down.
Adversity and overwhelm appear differently in each realm.
Therefore, each realm has its unique page on this website.
To overcome the adversity of love, see the Find Love page.
2nd step on overcoming adversity is asking yourself, are my four realms perfectly entwined, creating a life well-lived, or is one area calling out for attention?
The goal is…
Hakuna Matata – No Worries for the rest of your days
After you have finished with this page, we advise clicking the page giving you the most trouble.
3rd point to review in the face of adversity is perfect timing.
3. Perfect Timing
When the time is right for a change, the lessons will begin. – #AskMsLove
Woo Hoo. Yeah! You are here. Are you ready for your first lesson?
Great. Do this.
Push the reboot button on the back of your neck. Twist your thumb. Wave your arms in the air. Jump up and down. And then shout NEXT with a big silly grin on your face!
If those actions do not cause you to smile and laugh, repeat them until you are giggling.
And then, daily, if need be, remind yourself to let yourself off the hook for not knowing how to do things differently.
You will learn when the time is right.
Now, if you are able, go to bed so you can restart.
Yes, take yourself back to bed. Remember, you have already bookmarked the page, so it will be here when you get back.
If it is nighttime, go to sleep. If it is nap time, take a 20-minute nap or do a 10-minute time out listening to soothing sounds.
Then upon waking, remember the 3rd principle for overcoming adversity; the best San Diego life coach says when the time is right for a change, the lessons will begin.
4th factor to consider in overcoming adversity is to ask why you are choosing this life.
4. Choices
Clean the slate, activate belief, start again, take action
Yes, adversity happens. Welcome it.
Choose to accept responsibility for your part, learn from the struggle, forgive yourself and others, and then wipe the slate clean as you wave goodbye.
Choices wrapped in blame or shame hinder growth.
To spark new life and create movement eliminating from your vocabulary the coated in blame and shame words.
Replace “should have” and “could have” and “would have” and “need to” with “I choose_________.
I choose to start again.
Bear in mind, neither circumstances nor other people determine the kind of day you will have – YOU DO.
Your attitude, character, personality, and responses are the ink being used to write the story of your day.
When you are ready to write an overcoming story of victory – YOU WILL.
A clean slate carries with it a connectedness to your Creator.
A clean slate directs a flow of inspiration and love to you and then asks to be released through you to others.
When are you ready to dream again? Clean the slate.
The 4th point was, why are you choosing this life?
Your choices take orders from you.
When you want a different life, choose.
In review, the four principal factors to overcoming life’s adversity are Identity, Entwined Life, Perfect Timing, and Choice.
Let’s go deeper…
Examples of adversity in life – Answer keeping track of the YESES
- Are you facing unsolved adversity, difficulty, struggle, etc.?
- Do you feel rejected?
- Is your love life complicated?
- Is communication not working?
- Are your finances frustrating or being ignored?
- Are you stuck in survival mode?
- Are you walking through life without a plan or any motivation to move forward?
- Is your faith lacking conviction or not serving you very well?
- Have you lost yourself or been feeling out of sorts?
How many YESES did you have?
The first step in moving forward is knowing where you are.
Great job on counting YESES.
Now that you have taken the first step, let’s take another action.
Knowing how to overcome adversity requires acquiring knowledge – which is right here – embracing a can-do spirit and then using practical applications to begin taking one step at a time.
All the content you need to overcome all types of adversity is here. We advise you…
- Dig in
- Get the recommended resources
- Do the work
- Ask for help – when needed
- Experience a new you
- Share the results for accountability
- Teach others for lasting change
Eliminate the need for a
"Believe in Yourself" book
Eight Building Blocks to Overcome All Types of Adversity
Ms. Love found eight-building block played a crucial role in helping a person to overcome adversity and even divert future trouble. They are…
- Seek sound advice
- Build your character
- Use practical applications
- Seize opportunities
- Meet Ms. Love
- Be an overcomer
- Get to know others
- Remain connected
When you are struggling, review each segment and ask yourself – Am I overlooking this building block?
Seek Sound Advice
A shift in one’s perspective is often all that is needed when feeling out of sorts to get back on track. Who are you asking? #AskMsLove is a hub for solutions, as well as for motivation and inspiration. Ask.
Build Your Character
Daily develop your character recognizing undeveloped character traits cause all sorts of issues. Which character trait is behind your latest adversity? Characteristics to develop are found throughout the website.
Use Practical Applications
Practical application tools are essential for growth. Invest in and use tools to help you live your best life. Our Lifestyle Planner incorporates everything we teach on how to be an overcomer. Use it for 90 days to celebrate you.
Seize Opportunities
Your daily actions reflect your priorities. Money is the mirror of the heart, revealing your preferences. The Life Guide section of your Lifestyle Planner is a diary of your integrity both financially and physically.
Meet Ms. Love
Ms. Love’s wisdom, depth of understanding, and loving heart leave a lasting impression. When going through adversity, travel with someone who has been there and done that so they can help you come out smelling like a rose. Meet Love today.
Be An Overcomer
Your freedom is priceless and also comes with a price. There are no actions void of consequences. Results are either positive or negative. Set before you each day are life and death. Choose life. Choose to overcome adversity.
Get to Know Others
We are either heading into, going through, or coming out of some adversity. Keep in mind; someone else has lived your story. Receive help and then pay it forward. Share your account so that others may follow in your footsteps.
Remain Connected
Find inspiration and motivation by associating with people who believe in you. Connect with us on social media, leave a comment, and we will do our best to reply and if you have a question, #AskMsLove. There are no dumb questions.
In summary, there are eight building blocks to living an empowered life; when you are struggling, come back and find which area is being overlooked.
Next, we are diving deeper into each of the eight building blocks.
The 1st building block on how to overcome adversity is to seek sound advice.
So here is some sound advice on how to believe in yourself.
How to believe in yourself
Believing in yourself is fueled by seeing progress.
To see progress in your lives, it is vital to journal so you can look back and see how far you have come.
Journaling can help you make sense of your behavior by seeing what you are thinking and why.
We encourage journaling in your planner to help you uncover the what and why behind your schedule.
If you don’t already have a copy of the Lifestyle Planner we encourage you to purchase one as the daily page includes a journal section.
In your planner, write a response to the following three steps.
Celebrate
- Celebrate knowing you are lost. Write, “I lost myself. I am okay with being lost.”
- Wipe the slate clean. Write, “I forgive myself. I will start again.”
- Record what is behind you feeling out of sorts? Why?
Educate
- Develop undeveloped character traits to stay away from adversity.
- Identify what character trait is linked to your issue. Is it one of these >>> Character Traits
- Write inspiring ideas to help you grow each positive character trait.
Validate
- Record your feelings using the list in the Lifestyle Planner, pg 11-13.
- Identify your unmet needs on pg 10 of the Lifestyle Planner.
- Choose an action that will meet your demand.
- Share your needs, feelings, and desired actions with someone.
The 1st building block to overcoming adversity is to seek sound advice. Sound advice can shift your perspective changing the outcome if you are willing to act upon the suggestion.
The 2nd building block is building your character will avert many issues in your life.
The top 90 character traits of world changes, leaders, influencers, and high-ranking employees are featured in the Lifestyle Planner.
One of the many benefits of character building is improving communication.
Communication and self-awareness will strengthens family love and trust
Open up the lines of communication by centering
discussions around Character Traits
The 1, 2, 3’s of developing your character and enhancing your personality are trait awareness, character communication, and practice with peer review.
1. Trait Awareness
Seeing options is like standing at a crossroad – which way will you go.
You can go down the less-traveled path to life and growth or take the well-worn road of passivity and death. Staying the same is not possible.
Write the three character traits below in your planner and on note cards.
Place the cards where you will see them.
2. Character Communicates
Talk about what each positive character trait means. Discuss the benefits each person would gain if you developed the characteristics.
Ask others their thoughts concerning the traits, if they use them or not.
3. Practice with Peer Review
Plan, practice, and use peer review to become your best self.
In your Lifestyle Planner, list ways you can practice each trait.
After you implement the trait, jot down your results.
Lastly, ask a peer for their honest observation of you and that trait.
Start with these three character traits…
Hey, Honey!
Pack your bags, we are going away for the weekend.
Character Trait: Passionate
pg.38 in the Lifestyle Planner
Yo, Dad!
Let's go shopping. I can help you practice patience.
Character Trait: Patience
pg. 44 in the Lifestyle Planner
Hi, Friend!
Join us on our outing to get the kids off the couch.
Character Trait: Ambitious
pg. 112 in the Lifestyle Planner
Review, building block two is building character. You will increase family love and build trust by talking about and executing daily character trait training into your life. There is day-to-day character building in the lifestyle planner.
TIP: If you have teenagers, buy them a copy of the Lifestyle Planner so that you can be on the same page building character together.
Building block three is inspiring ideas.
Inspiring ideas come to life with action
Leave yesterday in the past, wipe the slate clean and start again.
Today, you are amazing, and it is a wonderful day!
Building block three is the practicality of using practical application tools.
Why should you use useful application tools?
The answer is revealed in the question.
Do you prefer to take a drink from an empty cup or a full cup to satisfy your thirst?
Yes, of course, a full cup.
Stand out from the crowd and use tools to help you become an overcomer.
Overcome adversity by writing down advice and then applying it.
The BEST PLANNER to help you apply the advice you are given also has suggestions in it for creating your best life.
- Entwine life, love, finances, and faith
- Find solutions for issues that you face
- Identify your feelings and needs
- Offering tips for daily building your character
- Reminds you to infuse gratitude into your day
- Assists you in making wise financial choices
- Plus other cool stuff
Visualize your next three months are in front of you. What action will you choose to take?
Will you be glad or sad…
When the next three months are over, and you hold proof of how you choose to show up, you will be glad.
You will see that you were born to be an overcomer.
Review, the 3rd building block is use practical application tools.
The 4th building block is look for and seize opportunities.
Ask, and Ms. Love will answer
Helping You Find Your Way and Believe in Yourself is Why We Are Here
Tell us your story, ask us your question. Why are you feeling out of sorts and lost?
The 4th building block is summed up with this 12th century proverb by John Heywood.
A man maie well bring a horse to the water, But he can not make him drinke without he will.
The 5th building is relating to someone who has been there and done. Ms. Love will show you that if she overcame her adversity, you could certainly overcome yours.
Thought leader, expert, authority, and content producer made by God for maximum impact
Ms. Sharon Lynne Love
Twenty-seven years of working with people taught me…
What causes issues in my life?
1. Issues stem from undeveloped character traits
Character building influences a person’s priorities.
2. Priorities either unravel or beautifully weave together a life
Priorities combined with beliefs lay the foundation to a life well-lived.
3. An exceptional life can be created from where you are
- Validate where you are
- Identify the root cause without blame or shame
- Ask for help
- Choose where you want to go
- Use practical application tools
- Move forward
4. You can count “it” ALL joy
No matter what life hands you, difficulty and adversity can make you both stronger and wiser. Armed with this knowledge, celebrate EVERYTHING and search for the lesson to learn. Let no unpleasant experience leave without first being its padawan.
Never Forget Adversity Offers:
- A desire to make a positive difference
- A drive to keep moving forward
- The resilience of bouncing back
- Wisdom gained from lessons learned
- Deeper character trait development
- A richer personality
- Enduring hope
5. The right tools are necessary
Our practical application tools are designed to help you advance quickly through adversity gleaning life lessons along the way.
6. Benefits of sharing your overcoming adversity story
Sharing your story of how you overcame adversity is the quickest way to imprint the lesson upon your heart. Give honor to those who helped you and the resources you found to be pivotal. In doing so, you help others find freedom.
Your priority-driven lifestyle coach, Ms. Love
The 5th building block was relating to Ms. Love gives you the courage to move through whatever it is that you are facing.
The 6th building block is be an overcomer.
How to find yourself again
Asking for help will lead you to find yourself again
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How to overcome adversity? Do what this San Diego life coach says…
People who were once lost reported…
- I Believe in Myself
- Increased Clarity
- New Perspectives
- Visible Ways to Reach Goals
- Alternative Way to Guide Life
- Second-Guessing Choices Stopped
- Increased Happiness
- Great ROI
- Awesome Self-Accountability
- Renewed Faith
- Building Wealth Easier
- Eliminating Stress
- Guilt Reduction
- Carefree Management
- No Restrictions
- Flexibility
- Problem-solving
- Holistic Approach
- Debt Retirement
- Kissing Budgeting Days Bye
- Freedom
- Entire Family Involvement
- New Community of Friends
Remember when you are feeling out of sorts and are needing motivation and inspiration come back to this page on how to overcome adversity. The best San Diego life coach has created this DIY Life Coaching site just for you.
Life is hard but God is good.
